We've all heard of the dangers associated with eating trans fats; how our body has more difficulty breaking them down, they increase our risk of cardiovascular disease, they can lead to certain types of cancers, etc. My question to you is this: how are the toxic people in your life any different from trans fats? They drain your energy, make you feel terrible, and the lasting effects of their negative vibrations can cause extensive damage to your body physically, emotionally and spiritually. I liken these types of folks to a bag of Doritos; if you eat one chip every now and then, you'll be fine. If you eat an entire bag often, you'll be sick.
Now, if you're an Empath as I am, you may struggle with some guilt about cutting people off, whether they are your blood relative, someone with whom you share a long history, or even a colleague that you have to deal with. The bottom line is this; toxic is toxic, and it's gotta go! When I am ready to make changes in my life, the first thing I do is look within. As someone who firmly believes that like attracts like, I have to ask myself that painful, dreaded question "What unhealed parts of myself are reflecting that persons poor behavior back to me?" Sometimes there are sneaky little bits that hide in the dark, things we thought we handled but we didn't. What about when we have handled it though, and we choose to still share compassion with those who clearly don't have the capability to reciprocate it, leaving us stumped and feeling empty yet again. This is where my Dorito analogy comes back into play.
A Dorito doesn't understand its makeup. It's unaware that the corn it's made from is highly inflammatory to the body. It doesn't care that if you eat massive amounts of it, your body won't be able to function properly, it's just being a Dorito, that is its only job. Toxic people are no different. They are blissfully unaware that their actions and mere existence are harmful to others, they are just being who they truly are. It's up to us whether or not we choose to eat that Dorito and let it harm us. Would you feel guilty about not eating something that's harmful to you? Likewise, why should you ever feel guilty about cutting off other forms of toxicity in your life? Is that Dorito enhancing or harming the quality of your life with every bite? We always have a choice, and as tempting as it may be to stomp that bag of Doritos into a million pieces of dust, it's far more gratifying when we realize that the Dorito itself is a harmful, self fulfilling prophecy of destruction. It needs no help from us to make it any worse than it already is. Choose the people in your life the same way as you choose the foods you put into your body. If you put garbage into your body, garbage will be what comes out, physically, emotionally and spiritually. The choice is always yours.
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